Surprises don’t always have to be expensive gestures. You and your partner know each other well. You know their likes and dislikes. Their wishes and their dreams. If your partner likes chocolate, hide some wrapped chocolate around the house and let them find them. Send flowers to their workplace. Prepare a picnic and surprise them with lunch in the park. If you’re not sure, ask your partner what they like and share what you like too. If you see something that you know your partner would like, buy it. It might be red roses as a symbol of your love and passion or an outfit you noticed them look at when out shopping or tickets for their favourite band who are in town or lovely gift for her 30th birthday.
Set up a romantic routine
Do things for your partner on a regular basis. Leave love notes, send romantic text or voicemail messages they can access in their work breaks. Always kiss when you meet and when you say goodbye. If you are terrible at remembering significant dates, sign up to online card companies and fill in the dates for the year so they can send you a reminder.
Be connected by phone, but also work on increasing your emotional connection. Tell your partner something you haven’t told any or many other people. Look into each others eyes. Lingering kisses and hugs instead of a hurried peck on the cheek. Flirt with each other. Reminisce about your first dates if you’ve been together a while, it’s fun and you’ll learn more about each other by the things you’ve individually remembered.
To make your love life unforgettable, meet your partner’s needs and they’ll be willing to meet yours. Gain skill in the things that make him or her happy. Ask what turns them on and oblige. Making this a priority will bring you closer together and will be fun too.
Share with your partner your dreams and desires. Your partner will want to support you and you can let them know how you think that may be possible. Don’t assume your partner is a mind-reader, let them know how you are feeling and say ‘Thank you’ when they have been supportive or have done something you appreciate.
Discuss your sexual needs openly and honestly. If you feel your love life needs a bit of variation and excitement, look for new ways to bring that into your intimate times. Share your fantasies. Do things differently, from the way you kiss your partner to the way you show love. Be imaginative.
Do something together that challenges you both. Ride the roller coaster at a theme park or take a bungee jump if you like the rush of adrenaline. If you or your partner are more cautious, try challenges closer to earth. Join a local choir or learn a new language for your next holiday. Doing things together will reinforce the bond you already have.
Communicate without words
It is vital that you and your partner are comfortable to talk about anything. You can communicate without speech using all your senses. When you are at a party, give eye contact with your partner when you’re across the room. Wear the favourite scent that your partner likes. Feed your partner strawberries dipped in chocolate. Use all your senses so your partner sees, hears, tastes, smells and feels you.
Make friends with your partner’s friends and family
Your partner has important people in their life who they care about. Make an effort with your partner’s friends and family to be good company and to help when you can. Your partner will appreciate it when they see you care for their parents, friends, colleagues or pets.
Create a memory box
You and your partner will be creating new memories throughout your relationship. Take photographs and write your partner a love note to say thank you for the special times and great care and support they are to you. Create your own memory box for you to delve into in the future.